First of all, I want to thank you for taking the time to answer these questions and being a part of “CurvesRFab” from a male's perspective.
This blog strives to inform and entertain those fabulous, curvy women out there and those who love and appreciate them them.Our first interview in this series is with Ray Gompf.
- Can you tell me a little about yourself and what you do?
I have been a soldier, a salesman in the commercial furniture industry, a long haul trucker (4.5 million miles) and an author. The Peanut Butter Cookbook For Kids - 1996 by Hyperion Press; This One Or The Next One, -- 2008 by XOXO Publishing; and a lot of magazine articles in various magazines including Canadian Living.
The genre I most enjoy writing is erotica. You know what they say "write about what you know". I think in my nearly 70 years I think I've learned a little something.
- What do you find most challenging about appreciating a plus size woman?
Believe it or not, the biggest challenge to appreciating plus size (and I don't like that terminology) is getting them to believe in themselves. Women are sexy. Curvy women are the sexiest. Those skinny waifs just don't do it for most men when given a choice. When in intimate settings with curvy women, both parties sometimes have to be creative to make things happen but that's the fun part of enjoying intimate events with curvy women. God didn't make any ugly women, just women who aren't comfortable in their own skin.
- What do you find most enjoyable about appreciating a plus size woman?
Curvy women seem to enjoy the attention much more than skinny waifs. Skinny waifs seem to be so self absorbed with the attitude that they alone are God's gift to men and that men should fall down at their feet and be thankful she's awarded them with affection. Curvy women seem to accept the fact the God gave both men and women a gift for each other and that reciprocation is what life makes life beyond good.
- Has there been a personal situation or experience that has given you a unique perspective on being interested in or appreciating a plus size woman?
For a time a few years ago, I tried to go into the lingerie business where I designed and manufactured sexy garments for real plus size women. Designing lingerie for curvy women isn't just adding more material to the size zero. There is no correlation between the size zero and the size 14 or 24. The designs have to be specifically made for the body type that will wear it. Lingerie is to enhance what God gave the wearer. The waif can pretty much wear a shoe lace and it would work. The larger woman must wear a garment that enhances and promotes those wonderful curves that make her her.
The skinny waifs think that large breasts are the only thing they need but the curvy girl knows that large breasts hurt her shoulders and men aren't overly impressed anyway. Natural breast are way better than anything that can be added for cosmetic reasons. Even women who have suffered because of illness to have had their breasts removed are sexy even without reconstruction. Sexy women are real women and real women aren't what SHE may thinks is sexy but what HE thinks is sexy.
- Women can be their own worst critics. Do you have any advice for a plus size women trying to fit in or be comfortable in her own skin?
Doctor Oz did a show recently where women were discussing their "faults" and how to correct them. There was a plastic surgeon on the show and the discussions included face lifts, breast augmentation, even labia modification. I wanted to scream out that all this stuff isn't necessary for a real man to enjoy you. Those modifications, if you want to do them are fine if it's for yourself but you don't have to endure those procedures to make a man love you more. Men appreciate real women without the enhancements medical science can provide. God made you the way He meant you to be and men appreciate what God gave.
- Do you have any tips or tricks for being the best “you”, you can be?
Be yourself. Think positively. Be thankful for all that God has given. Forget Lady Clairol. Forget the plastic surgeon, it's a waste of time, effort and pain.
- What is the best, uplifting quote you have heard or read about being a plus size woman?
Charlotte Whitton. and I'm not sure I get this quote quite the way she said it so I won't use quotation marks. For a woman to be successful in a man's world, she has to do twice as much at half the price but fortunately, it's not hard....
- Favourite food?
I'm a cook.. there is no such thing as favourite food, I love food -- period.
- Favourite drink? - Beer
- Vanilla or chocolate? - Chocolate....
- Books or movies? - Books....
- Lace or satin on a woman? - Satin
- Bath or shower? - Bath
- Gold or silver? - Silver
Wonderful! I appreciate your honesty and candor Ray as I am sure my readers will as well. It's fantastic to get another point of view .
I am still looking for ideas to write about. If you have something to share or an idea that I and the rest of us curvy ladies out there need to know about, drop me a line at email@example.com
Until next time....
heather mcalendin 2012