Saturday, 28 January 2012

Curves R Fab! - A man's perspective...

First of all, I want to thank you for taking the time to answer these questions and being a part of “CurvesRFab” from a male's perspective.
This blog strives to inform and entertain those fabulous, curvy women out there and those who love and appreciate them them.Our first interview in this series is with Ray Gompf.
  1. Can you tell me a little about yourself and what you do?

    I have been a soldier, a salesman in the commercial furniture industry, a long haul trucker (4.5 million miles) and an author.  The Peanut Butter Cookbook For Kids - 1996 by Hyperion Press;  This One Or The Next One, -- 2008 by XOXO Publishing; and a lot of magazine articles in various magazines including Canadian Living.

    The genre I most enjoy writing is erotica.  You know what they say "write about what you know".  I think in my nearly 70 years I think I've learned a little something.  

  2. What do you find most challenging about appreciating a plus size woman?

    Believe it or not, the biggest challenge to appreciating plus size (and I don't like that terminology) is getting them to believe in themselves.  Women are sexy.  Curvy women are the sexiest.  Those skinny waifs just don't do it for most men when given a choice.  When in intimate settings with curvy women, both parties sometimes have to be creative to make things happen but that's the fun part of enjoying intimate events with curvy women.  God didn't make any ugly women, just women who aren't comfortable in their own skin.  

  3. What do you find most enjoyable about appreciating a plus size woman?

    Curvy women seem to enjoy the attention much more than skinny waifs.   Skinny waifs seem to be so self absorbed with the attitude that they alone are God's gift to men and that men should fall down at their feet and be thankful she's awarded them with affection.  Curvy women seem to accept the fact the God gave both men and women a gift for each other and that reciprocation is what life makes life beyond good.

  4. Has there been a personal situation or experience that has given you a unique perspective on being interested in or appreciating a plus size woman?

    For a time a few years ago, I tried to go into the lingerie business where I designed and manufactured sexy garments for real plus size women.  Designing lingerie for curvy women isn't just adding more material to the size zero.  There is no correlation between the size zero and the size 14 or 24.  The designs have to be specifically made for the body type that will wear it.  Lingerie is to enhance what God gave the wearer.  The waif can pretty much wear a shoe lace and it would work.  The larger woman must wear a garment that enhances and promotes those wonderful curves that make her her.

    The skinny waifs think that large breasts are the only thing they need but the curvy girl knows that large breasts hurt her shoulders and men aren't overly impressed anyway.  Natural breast are way better than anything that can be added for cosmetic reasons.  Even women who have suffered because of illness to have had their breasts removed are sexy even without reconstruction.  Sexy women are real women and real women aren't what SHE may thinks is sexy but what HE thinks is sexy.

  5. Women can be their own worst critics. Do you have any advice for a plus size women trying to fit in or be comfortable in her own skin?

    Doctor Oz did a show recently where women were discussing their "faults" and how to correct them.   There was a plastic surgeon on the show and the discussions included face lifts, breast augmentation, even labia modification.  I wanted to scream out that all this stuff isn't necessary for a real man to enjoy you.  Those modifications, if you want to do them are fine if it's for yourself but you don't have to endure those procedures to make a man love you more.  Men appreciate real women without the enhancements medical science can provide.  God made you the way He meant you to be and men appreciate what God gave.

  6. Do you have any tips or tricks for being the best “you”, you can be?

    Be yourself.  Think positively.  Be thankful for all that God has given.  Forget Lady Clairol.  Forget the plastic surgeon, it's a waste of time, effort and pain.

  7. What is the best, uplifting quote you have heard or read about being a plus size woman?

    Charlotte Whitton.  and I'm not sure I get this quote quite the way she said it so I won't use quotation marks.  For a woman to be successful in a man's world, she has to do twice as much at half the price but fortunately, it's not hard....
Quicky questions.
  1. Favourite food?

    I'm a cook..  there is no such thing as favourite food, I love food -- period.

  2. Favourite drink? - Beer

  3. Vanilla or chocolate? - Chocolate....

  4. Books or movies? - Books....

  5. Lace or satin on a woman? - Satin

  6. Bath or shower? - Bath

  7. Gold or silver? - Silver

    Wonderful! I appreciate your honesty and candor Ray as I am sure my readers will as well. It's fantastic to get another point of view .

    I am still looking for ideas to write about. If you have something to share or an idea that I and the rest of us curvy ladies out there need to know about, drop me a line at

    Until next time....

    Heather McAlendin

    heather mcalendin 2012

Friday, 27 January 2012

Calling All Curvy Women.....


As most of you know, I have this little blog called "CurvesRFab".
What I'd like to do is interview some fabulous curvy women who have a unique perspective on living in this body conscious world of ours. Whether you are a mom, a business woman, a writer etc...I'd love to hear from you. Email me at or with "Interview" in the title.....


Saturday, 21 January 2012

Just breathe.....

First and foremost I want to thank everyone for their healing energy and blessings over the last few weeks.  I am very happy to say that I do NOT have cancer. My diagnosis is a non cancerous fibroid. Something that the doctor will watch over the next little while because it can grow in size and be a bit painful. As a result I will have another ultrsound in 6 months and a mamogram every year from now on. I am so relieved right now that it is hard for me to express just how happy I am!

PLEASE....and I cannot emphasis this enough....If you think there is something really wrong with you, find a doctor that will take your concerns seriously and have it checked out. I am very lucky in my case that my fibroid was benign. I can't imagine the alternative. The thoughts that have been going through my head this last week have ranged from anger to frustration to joy.

I will say that this health scare has certainly given me a new appreciation for my family and friends and for life in general. I promise myself and you that I will no longer take this gift of life for granted because you just don't know when the situation will change and it will all be taken from you.

Life and your beautiful body is such a gift...don't waste it!

As 2012 is still a New Year, let's move forward with grace and a smile and a new appreciation for the loveliness of curves and for health and for friendship.

I thank you, dear reader and friends for being patience with my ranting. The next blog will continue to tout the virtues of being the goddesses we all are!

Curves R Fab!!! And so are you!

The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.  BUDDHA

I am looking for ideas to write about. If you have something to share or an idea that I and the rest of us curvy ladies out there need to know about, drop me a line at

Until next time....

Heather McAlendin

heather mcalendin 2012

Wednesday, 18 January 2012

Don't take things for granted....

 ...such as your health!

As women, young or old; curvy or not, we all have a tendency to take out health and bodies for granted. We always assume we will be healthy for the most part and grow old. So it's hard to understand why we always seem to put the health of our children; partners and/or spouse first and foremost in this area rather than ourselves.

Maybe it's not so hard to understand after all. I'm guuilty of putting myself and my needs last. Women always seem to need or want to make sure everyone else is taken care of.

It's time for all of us to wake up and realize we need to care for ourselves or there will be no one caring for our loved ones.

Why am i bringing this up now? I, like many of us at least once in our life is going through a crisis. A health crisis to be specific.

I'm 42 and jsut recently had my very first mamogram. Why now when the normal age is 50? Well, I found what i thought to be a lump well over a year and a half ago in my right breast. My doctor, in his infinite wisodom and because of my age said it was likely a cyst and it would go away.

It didn't go away and in fact became more painful. In the last month I decided to go to a new doctor. I explained what was going on and she sent me for a mamogram right away. As things would have it, I got a call from the clinic last week asking me to go in for an ultrasound as there was "something" they needed to clarify. I will get the results from the mamogram and ultrasound this Friday. So the last few weeks i have been under considerable stress; likely for nothing as I am going to assume the best. But this situation has made me realize that I only have one body and as i age my health is of the utmost importance and i need to take it more seriously.

Why am i sharing this? I know i am not alone in neglecting the importance things in my life; health being one of them. I am hoping by sharing this struggle i am having right now that anyone who reads this will take a second look at how they are running their lives and take the time they need to take care of themselves properly.

I don't mean waiting until a health scare wisens you up either! Every day we have is a gift and should be treated as such. We are a gift to ourselves and our family and friends and co workers; hence we need to show more respect for how we treat our bodies, minds and spirits!

Let's hope Friday brings good news and if not then I will have some things to take care.....namely me!

Love yourself enough to be mindful of what your body is telling you and find someone who will listen if you have a concern.

My thanks for reading my rant...and for the support you have shown me thus far!

Curvy women rock!

I am looking for ideas to write about. If you have something to share or an idea that I and the rest of us curvy ladies out there need to know about, drop me a line at

Until next time....

Heather McAlendin

heather mcalendin 2012

Saturday, 7 January 2012

Love Your Undies!

I've blogged briefly about lingerie and bras in the past but a facebook friend sent me a link to a website that I just had to share.

Curvy girls love silk and lace too!!! (I know I do!) And at times it can be difficult to find some of those lovely things to fit our voluptuous curves.  Take a peek at the website below and let me know what you think. If you are into everything feminine then you will love what "Hips and Curves" has to offer. They have everything you will need to look and feel sexy at any size and body shape. They even have knickers and some old fashioned type lingerie for those that enjoy that sort of thing!

Check out their link for STEAMPUNK!!!

Have fun ladies...don't forget that Valentine's Day is just around the corner! Make yourself and that someone special happy! You are BEAUTIFUL!!!

I am looking for ideas to write about. If you have something to share or an idea that I and the rest of us curvy ladies out there need to know about, drop me a line at

Until next time....

Heather McAlendin

heather mcalendin 2012

Tuesday, 3 January 2012

Don't get hung up on size!

Women have enough to worry about during the day than to take the size of their pants on their shoulders!

Media puts a lot of pressure on women to be a certain size; a certain weight; a certain look. ENOUGH ALREADY!

Clothing for curvy women has come along way in the few years so there really are no excuses for not looking your best no matter what your age, size or income.

One of the worst things to do is to try and squeeze into an outfit that is a size or two too small because you think that's all there is! WRONG!!!

Women of any size look and feel better about themselves if they wear clothes that fit their body shape properly. Whether you are 175 or 375 or pear shaped etc., do the research; ask for help and buy what suits and flatters you!

There is nothing more unflattering that putting on something that pulls and bunches because it is not the right size for you.

As strong, beautiful, voluptuous women we deserve nothing less but feeling that way at all times. Whether it's track pants or jeans or evening wear; buy the size that fits you. We have to stop getting up on the numbers. So what if your dress is a size 16 or an 18 or a 20! Does the colour suit your skin and hair? Does the fit flatter that full bust line and those womanly hips? Is your bra the right cup size? That's what matters! How you should feel in your clothing is the same as in your own skin.

Take a peek in your closest and finally get rid of all that nonsense that doesn't fit you. Bag it up and give it to Good Will or a women's shelter. Take a good look online and local stores and slowly buy pieces that fit and flatter. You will feel better and look better.  That will translate into more confidence and nothing but a gorgeous smile on your face knowing you are showing the world what you are all about.

I am looking for ideas to write about. If you have something to share or an idea that I and the rest of us curvy ladies out there need to know about, drop me a line at

Until next time....

Heather McAlendin

heather mcalendin 2012

Monday, 2 January 2012


Welcome to my blog and welcome to the New Year!

For those who have perused my blog thanks. And, for those new readers...welcome, sit down and stay awhile.

My New Years celebrations included a lovely dinner out with my fiance. It's always a great time when you have people around you who love and support you in any and all situations. I am very blessed to have found a man who loves my curves; my quirks and foibles and all that I am.

Any resolutions? I try not to make any as I most often break them after a week or two. What I have promised myself is to be the best i can be at work; at play; at home and away.

What are you looking forward to in the New Year? I, like many of us have alot going on this year. I am busy planning my wedding; writing some new manuscripts and doing the day to day at my job.

No matter what is going in your life don't forget to take a few moments each day to make sure you spend some quality time with a loved one...YOU!

Big or small; tall or short; old or young we all deserve to treat ourselves well. If we don't fill our "tank" from time to time with the positive, then the negative can drag us down. Make this year, the year that you and I both surround ourselves with as much positive energy and influences as possible.

Don’t put off living to next week, next month, next year or next decade. The only time you’re ever living is in this moment.

I am looking for ideas to write about. If you have something to share or an idea that I and the rest of us curvy ladies out there need to know about, drop me a line at

Until next time....

Heather McAlendin

heather mcalendin 2012