Sunday, 22 April 2012

Weddings are Fab!

I'm getting married in less than 4 weeks and you'd think wedding planning would get easier as i am now in my mid 40's. NOT!!! But, it's a lot more fun because the only people i am out to impress is my fiance and I.

As a woman, the most important purchase for my wedding was my gown.  Originally, I had entered a wonderful contest where many friends and family members voted for me to win the gown of my dreams....well...as life would have it, the gown was not all it was cracked up to be. For starters, it was second hand, which i was not aware of until we at the venue to pick up the dress and no alterations or fittings were included. But, for a small cost i could get it altered myself so i was not too worried until a few months ago when i tried on the dress again to find it was too tight and there was not enough material to have it altered accordingly. I was devastated! At that time, i have only a few months before my wedding to find a new dress.

Now for those of you new brides or brides to be you know how difficult it can be for a curvy girl to find a budget friendly dress that fits! I checked online only to find most placed needs months in advance to buy  a dress and have it made to order....I didn't have that kind of time or an unlimited budget!

In my search i found a local bridal shop who didn't require a consult appointment months in advance and they had dresses in my size and in stock! I was a bit nervous because i had no idea what kind of dresses they had in stock for purchase and whether they could do alterations in time etc. This unassuming little shop is in the middle of a tiny little mall. http://www.chrisandtinas.ca/
I was greeted by the most attentive and friendly sales woman and i once i explained the situation she promised me we would find "the" dress and have it ready for me in time. Needless to say i tried on only 3 dresses in order to find the most wonderful dress and it was in stock and in my size and price range!!!  AND...alterations could be done before my big day!! Hallelujah! It's almost like i was meant to find this place and this dress!
My thanks again and again to ChrisandTina's bridal!!!

So what's all this about? As a curvy woman does have options...sometimes you have to search for the right dress but more and more bridal shops are catering to our curves and differentiating budgets. DON'T SETTLE!!!

Online is a great lace to research but PLEASE be careful where you buy from. Do the research and make sure they provide alterations either included in the price or spell out the price for you. Communication is key!

Here are some online resources if you are looking for gowns that fit your voluptuous shape.
http://www.plussizebridal.com/
http://www.sydneyscloset.com/occasions/plus-size-wedding-dresses/
http://www.inweddingdress.com/wedding-dress/plus-size-wedding-dresses.html

PSSTTT.....and i know we are all looking for a deal..but ordering a dress from some place in china may not be the best idea!!! (just sayin') ;)

I am still looking for ideas to write about. If you have something to share or an idea that I and the rest of us curvy ladies out there need to know about, drop me a line at curvesrfab@gmail.com

Until next time....

Heather McAlendin
http://mcalendin.com
http://curvesrfab.blogspot.com

heather mcalendin 2012

Saturday, 14 April 2012

Question for the ladies...

Started reading some blogs about how women choose their partner; male or female. Noticeably and admittedly there has to be a chemistry...something that clicks. You look at someone from across that crowed room and they've caught your attention. Why? Is it their clothing? Is it their startling blue eyes? A wonderful laugh or smile?

 Is it their size? Yes I said size.


As a plus size woman in varying degrees of plus or minus over the years, my size has either attracted or repulsed men.

How do you feel about dating a plus sized woman or king sized man? Does that bother you? Are you attracted to the larger body type?

Admittedly I have dated men with a larger body type and men of "average" size. To me, pant size has never been an issue. If a man can make me laugh, treat me with respect, take the time to stimulate my mind and be kind with my son, I will give them a chance.

I do know some plus size women that would never date a king sized man. Which bares asking a question. Why not? I know it's all about preference. But to specifically discount someone for their size? I have heard women say that "It's just not right to have two plus sized people together." Um...Why? These are the same women who rant and complain about why they are alone or ignored or made fun of because they are plus size.

Me thinks part of their problem has little to do with size but attitude and self confidence.

At any rate...slake my thirst for knowledge. For the ladies out their who adore men...Would you date a king sized man? For the ladies who prefer a sexy gal....Would you date another plus size woman?

If yes..Why. And if not...Why not?

Let's start a discussion........

I am still looking for ideas to write about. If you have something to share or an idea that I and the rest of us curvy ladies out there need to know about, drop me a line at curvesrfab@gmail.com

Until next time....

Heather McAlendin
http://mcalendin.com
http://curvesrfab.blogspot.com

heather mcalendin 2012

Sunday, 8 April 2012

Happy Easter!

I just wanted to take a moment to say Happy Easter to my readers to those strong, beautiful curvy women everywhere!

Spring is here and the vibrant energy of life is all around us. Use that to motivate yourself to be the best YOU that you can be. Live this incredible life on your own terms. If you aren't happy with the way things are going then reinvent your life. Leave the negativity behind and walk forward with a new sense of discovery and purpose. Life is way too short to spend it worrying or making yourself sick over the negative energy in your life. Shake it off and find a new, positive purpose for living. What may that be? Your being happy is good place to start!
  I know you can do it....
Believe in yourself.
  • Believe that whatever you desire, you can achieve. You are in control of your own life. You must have faith in yourself, in your abilities, and talents. Within you is the power to manifest heart’s desires.
    Also, be confident, hold your head high, you are a glorious human being!


    I am still looking for ideas to write about. If you have something to share or an idea that I and the rest of us curvy ladies out there need to know about, drop me a line at curvesrfab@gmail.com

    Until next time....

    Heather McAlendin
    http://mcalendin.com
    http://curvesrfab.blogspot.com

    heather mcalendin 2012